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Wednesday, November 19, 2008

WHO KNOWS WHAT IT REALLY MEANS TO BE HURT - Volume Two

Now there are always 2 parts to every story ...


... This is Volume II of My Pain


Song Cry - Jay Z



We have established that the pain of losing someone may lead people to do drugs, some drink, some pray, some dive into other gratifications, anyway, something usually always changes dramatically. {Remember that Pain?}

Now, think about the person who did the hurting!! {something tells me that's burning} Well, that is Part II - Imagine how it feels to be the person who has done the hurting. In my opinion there are 3 different "Hurts": The deceased (R.I.P), The disappoints, and the Cheats. Ill leave the deceased and cheaters to later volumes, so that leaves me with the disappointments. Ironically, these people are usually hated less, but can leave more of a long lasting effect on your life. They usually make you not trust again, they can make you a skeptic, and maybe even little emotionless. Question is, you think they feel pain for what they have done? Better yet, do you care about the pain do you think they are going through??

Seeing as though I have never been "Heartbroken" its safe to assume that at the healthy age of 28, someone "MIGHT" say that i have broken their heart before!!! -- MAYBE

So as the public defender and Co-Founder of the "Disappointment Hurts Organization." I must say that we are deeply saddened by the fact that you were hurt. It was never our intention to disappoint anyone, but we contend that we were always put in a difficult and sometimes impossible position.

We too have had to change our lives, and have had to deal with pain of the demise of the relationships. After every freakin person that says they have been hurt, we have to try to be more clear in our position. It has come to the place where our men tend to come across as crass and maybe even a bit coldblooded and egotistical. Our ladies are referred to as sluts or controlling craazy bitches and even back stabbers!


We tell our members at the Organization to always be upfront and honest. If a young man falls for one of our ladies, but she has persisted in telling him that their relationship is casual, and he finds out she is messing with someone else, why should she be labeled as a slut and be responsible for the fact that he now treats women like shyt! If a young lady falls for a young entrepreneur (sometimes called a hustler) and he tells her is in not gonna be around, he always has to be in the streets, but she falls for a dude and now she doesn't see him, why is that his fault!

DO YOU THINK THE PERSON WHO HURT YOU WANTED TO HURT YOU? WAS IT MALICIOUS? OR WAS IT A CRIME OF OPPORTUNITY?


IF YOU DON'T THINK IT WAS MALICIOUS, WHY DO YOU THINK YOU WERE WITH SOMEONE WHO COULD SO SUCH THINGS TO YOU??


......
"NEVER IGNORE THE SIGNS"

STAY TUNED FOR VOLUME III

2 Retort(s):

PM said...

First, I am LMAO @ you being the Co-Founder of the DHO... cute.

I guess I can say I've played both sides of the field. I've gotten hurt, and I've hurt (with regards to a relationship). Did I feel pain for what I did? Hmmm ... pain? No, I don't think I actually felt pain, I mean I felt bad, but pain is overdoing it. Afterall, I was The Hurter, not The Hurtee in that specific relationship ... but I digress... back to Dissapointment Hurts.

Do I care about the pain they are going through? As The Hurtee ... hell no! Cuz they ain't going through no damn pain, like I said The Hurter probably feels bad for dissapointing me, but to feel pain in the full sense of the word ... idk.

No, I don't think it was their intention to hurt. They didn't premeditate this dissapointment. Crime of Opportunity is a great way to put it. They saw the opportunity and committed the act. Afterall, opportunity is all you need, right?

And you're absolutely right, the Dissapointment Hurters are typically hated less but they definitely leave more of an impact, especially when it's a family member ...

If it wasn't malicious, why was I with someone who could do such things? Hmmm... well family is family. That answers that question. But in a relationship, you never really know someone's negative potential until something adverse happens.

*God's Gift* said...

wow, perfect day for me to read this (in so many ways im reading this on the PERFECT day lol)...

but umm yeah...do i think they did it out of malice? i dont really know. i hope so, or else, if there really is no rhyme to their reason, then they're just a fucked up individual.

one of my BIGGEST downfalls is having a heart that is tooo big and forgiving. so when i look back on situations, i try to find...(excuse me)...i USED to try to find excuses for people doing what they did. i learn though, sometimes there is no excuse...and some people just arent worth shit.

being on the other side of that...as the one who has disappointed...did i feel bad? nope...i dont think that i did. if i felt bad period, i probably wouldnt have disappointed the person in the first place...feel me? so after i've already disappointed...i'm pretty much numb to the emotions already.

why was i with the disappointer i was with? i dont know..."love"?? but thats a whole different blog within itself.

having been on both sides of the spectrum (since you stated you've only been on one side since you were never "heartbroken"...i can say that i'm understanding of both sides...but theres one i'd much rather be on then the other.