WHO KNOWS WHAT IT REALLY MEANS TO BE HURT - Volume Two

Now there are always 2 parts to every story ...


... This is Volume II of My Pain




We have established that the pain of losing someone may lead people to do drugs, some drink, some pray, some dive into other gratifications, anyway, something usually always changes dramatically. {Remember that Pain?}

Now, think about the person who did the hurting!! {something tells me that's burning} Well, that is Part II - Imagine how it feels to be the person who has done the hurting. In my opinion there are 3 different "Hurts": The deceased (R.I.P), The disappoints, and the Cheats. Ill leave the deceased and cheaters to later volumes, so that leaves me with the disappointments. Ironically, these people are usually hated less, but can leave more of a long lasting effect on your life. They usually make you not trust again, they can make you a skeptic, and maybe even little emotionless. Question is, you think they feel pain for what they have done? Better yet, do you care about the pain do you think they are going through??

Seeing as though I have never been "Heartbroken" its safe to assume that at the healthy age of 28, someone "MIGHT" say that i have broken their heart before!!! -- MAYBE

So as the public defender and Co-Founder of the "Disappointment Hurts Organization." I must say that we are deeply saddened by the fact that you were hurt. It was never our intention to disappoint anyone, but we contend that we were always put in a difficult and sometimes impossible position.

We too have had to change our lives, and have had to deal with pain of the demise of the relationships. After every freakin person that says they have been hurt, we have to try to be more clear in our position. It has come to the place where our men tend to come across as crass and maybe even a bit coldblooded and egotistical. Our ladies are referred to as sluts or controlling craazy bitches and even back stabbers!


We tell our members at the Organization to always be upfront and honest. If a young man falls for one of our ladies, but she has persisted in telling him that their relationship is casual, and he finds out she is messing with someone else, why should she be labeled as a slut and be responsible for the fact that he now treats women like shyt! If a young lady falls for a young entrepreneur (sometimes called a hustler) and he tells her is in not gonna be around, he always has to be in the streets, but she falls for a dude and now she doesn't see him, why is that his fault!

DO YOU THINK THE PERSON WHO HURT YOU WANTED TO HURT YOU? WAS IT MALICIOUS? OR WAS IT A CRIME OF OPPORTUNITY?


IF YOU DON'T THINK IT WAS MALICIOUS, WHY DO YOU THINK YOU WERE WITH SOMEONE WHO COULD SO SUCH THINGS TO YOU??


...... "NEVER IGNORE THE SIGNS"

STAY TUNED FOR VOLUME III

WHO KNOWS WHAT IT REALLY MEANS TO BE HURT - Volume One

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So, I didn't blog yesterday due to a alcohol induced day of sleep and relaxation! It was a mini celebration Sunday Night, and i kinda did too much!!! ... CONGRATS TO MY DUDE & HAPPY BIRTHDAY CITY, MY BAD FOR NOT HITTING YOU MY DUDE!!!

Anyway... I'm sitting here in the dark having some music therapy courtesy of my Imeem Playlist, and this topic just popped into my head (thanks to Brad Paisley's Whiskey Lullaby).

Who has ever been to a place in their life where the person they loved, cared for, trusted, or would die for (referencing an old blog) had done something to you that hurt you so deeply, or just wasn't around anymore so suddenly, that it made you do things that you thought you would never do. I'm not talking about hurt like, throw you clothes out the window or even smash a window. I'm talking about the type of pain that drives people to a stage of heavy drug & Alcohol use, maybe some form of self degradation, and quite possibly depression.

This is a real pain, this is a real feeling, i know people who have tried suicide, i know people who have lost themselves in substances. I'm not trying to bring up old painful memories for anyone, but who has really felt the pain that a love lost can really inflict on you.

I myself have never been "heartbroken" (in the general sense of the word), but at the very young age of 13 or so, i did suffer arguably the single most traumatic experience in my life. Now, i know some people have been lucky enough to have never felt the real pain of a love lost or a loved one's disappointment; but I know many if not even a majority of you have!!

They say what does not kill you makes you stronger, and I'm a person who many would consider strong (both mentally and physically), but some of the things i do (i attribute to the PAIN i felt at an early age of about 13) may just kill me one day.

Maybe what I'm really trying to find out (from those who really have been hurt) is what do you do, did you do to move on, and has it worked????
How do / did you get over that pain??