KEEP YOUR MAN SATISFIED OR ELSE THIS MIGHT HAPPEN TO YOU .....

Sex is about an experience with men, we see you and imagine what that experience would be like. So if you are unsatisfactory we will try to find someone else who will be satisfying. The way through a man's heart might be through his stomach, but the way to keep his interest is through his heads!! You have to entertain one, and stimulate the other one!

He will wife you because he loves you, but what he really wants is to love fucking you!

WHO KNOWS WHAT IT REALLY MEANS TO BE HURT - Volume Two

Now there are always 2 parts to every story ...


... This is Volume II of My Pain




We have established that the pain of losing someone may lead people to do drugs, some drink, some pray, some dive into other gratifications, anyway, something usually always changes dramatically. {Remember that Pain?}

Now, think about the person who did the hurting!! {something tells me that's burning} Well, that is Part II - Imagine how it feels to be the person who has done the hurting. In my opinion there are 3 different "Hurts": The deceased (R.I.P), The disappoints, and the Cheats. Ill leave the deceased and cheaters to later volumes, so that leaves me with the disappointments. Ironically, these people are usually hated less, but can leave more of a long lasting effect on your life. They usually make you not trust again, they can make you a skeptic, and maybe even little emotionless. Question is, you think they feel pain for what they have done? Better yet, do you care about the pain do you think they are going through??

Seeing as though I have never been "Heartbroken" its safe to assume that at the healthy age of 28, someone "MIGHT" say that i have broken their heart before!!! -- MAYBE

So as the public defender and Co-Founder of the "Disappointment Hurts Organization." I must say that we are deeply saddened by the fact that you were hurt. It was never our intention to disappoint anyone, but we contend that we were always put in a difficult and sometimes impossible position.

We too have had to change our lives, and have had to deal with pain of the demise of the relationships. After every freakin person that says they have been hurt, we have to try to be more clear in our position. It has come to the place where our men tend to come across as crass and maybe even a bit coldblooded and egotistical. Our ladies are referred to as sluts or controlling craazy bitches and even back stabbers!


We tell our members at the Organization to always be upfront and honest. If a young man falls for one of our ladies, but she has persisted in telling him that their relationship is casual, and he finds out she is messing with someone else, why should she be labeled as a slut and be responsible for the fact that he now treats women like shyt! If a young lady falls for a young entrepreneur (sometimes called a hustler) and he tells her is in not gonna be around, he always has to be in the streets, but she falls for a dude and now she doesn't see him, why is that his fault!

DO YOU THINK THE PERSON WHO HURT YOU WANTED TO HURT YOU? WAS IT MALICIOUS? OR WAS IT A CRIME OF OPPORTUNITY?


IF YOU DON'T THINK IT WAS MALICIOUS, WHY DO YOU THINK YOU WERE WITH SOMEONE WHO COULD SO SUCH THINGS TO YOU??


...... "NEVER IGNORE THE SIGNS"

STAY TUNED FOR VOLUME III

WHO KNOWS WHAT IT REALLY MEANS TO BE HURT - Volume One

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So, I didn't blog yesterday due to a alcohol induced day of sleep and relaxation! It was a mini celebration Sunday Night, and i kinda did too much!!! ... CONGRATS TO MY DUDE & HAPPY BIRTHDAY CITY, MY BAD FOR NOT HITTING YOU MY DUDE!!!

Anyway... I'm sitting here in the dark having some music therapy courtesy of my Imeem Playlist, and this topic just popped into my head (thanks to Brad Paisley's Whiskey Lullaby).

Who has ever been to a place in their life where the person they loved, cared for, trusted, or would die for (referencing an old blog) had done something to you that hurt you so deeply, or just wasn't around anymore so suddenly, that it made you do things that you thought you would never do. I'm not talking about hurt like, throw you clothes out the window or even smash a window. I'm talking about the type of pain that drives people to a stage of heavy drug & Alcohol use, maybe some form of self degradation, and quite possibly depression.

This is a real pain, this is a real feeling, i know people who have tried suicide, i know people who have lost themselves in substances. I'm not trying to bring up old painful memories for anyone, but who has really felt the pain that a love lost can really inflict on you.

I myself have never been "heartbroken" (in the general sense of the word), but at the very young age of 13 or so, i did suffer arguably the single most traumatic experience in my life. Now, i know some people have been lucky enough to have never felt the real pain of a love lost or a loved one's disappointment; but I know many if not even a majority of you have!!

They say what does not kill you makes you stronger, and I'm a person who many would consider strong (both mentally and physically), but some of the things i do (i attribute to the PAIN i felt at an early age of about 13) may just kill me one day.

Maybe what I'm really trying to find out (from those who really have been hurt) is what do you do, did you do to move on, and has it worked????
How do / did you get over that pain??

DOES LOVE KILL YOU?

Is it true that if you really love someone you would die for them?? Is that a real fact or is that something people say to make the situation seem more intense that it actually is. Why do you love someone? If you love that person does that mean that hopefully your love is reciprocated?? If it is reciprocated don't you think by your definition of love that this person would die or kill for you too?? So what makes you believe they want you to die? Now, if the person you would die for would not die for you, does this make you a fool for jumping off the bridge yourself with nothing to show for it except the belief that your death is going to bring the other person happiness. Does that not seem moronic to anyone else except me? If me dying makes you happy or a better person, shouldn't i be rethinking who or why I'm dying for you??

Ok, Lets examine this die for Love. Who would you die for? Your parent? Your child? Your spouse? Your lover? Could it be that your are telling me that i don't know real love because i can not see the point in dying for people? Does this make me calis? Does this make me heartless? Does this make me a bad person, or someone who does not really love? OK, Parent -- Why would you die for a parent? Have they not lived full lives? Do they not have memories of their good ol years, do they not want to see their kids grow up to be strong successful citizens. Its been said that kids should bury their parents not parents bury their kids. You as a parent with grand kids or maybe just kids, would you not want your child to grow continue living their life? Now, if the shoe was on the other foot, how would you explain that? As a parent would you die for your kid? If the child is young and so are you, would that not mean that you have many more years to live, and much more to give to society and your family. Losing a child is difficult (i can only assume, i have never lost one), but if that child grows up without a parent is that not worst?? If that child has to grow up knowing that I'm alive b/c mommy or daddy is dead, does that not do immeasurable damage to a child's psyche? Yes, children should berry there parents, but shouldn't that parents get a chance to live! Is the child better off without a mom or dad? Is the child going to be what you want them to be without you being there to raise them and mold them? Will the child know what you sacrificed for them, and if they do, does that hurt harm or help them? Is it not better to let one go early, and try again? Does it mean you don't love your child if you choose your life over there's? Some people say how can you say these things or you will never know the love a parent has for a child until you have one. I say to that, if having a child was a guaranteed way to know how to love, then many of our kids wouldn't be as messed up as they are. I have friends that work is the court system and in JHS and HS's and the things i hear some of these parents do to their kids is unimaginable. If having a kids shows me how to love, then why am i a better parent and care more for some of these kids that i see for 20 minutes more than their parents who "raise" them, if you can call watching someone grow up and not influencing their lives in a positive manner "raising"!

Family is one thing, what about someone who is not family by blood, but family by law or just that fact that you are sleeping with this person? If you love someone so much that you would die for them, what does that make you? Does it make you "IN LOVE" or does it make you "DELUSIONAL?" Some of the same questions relate with parent and child. Would you be happier knowing that i died for you? Could your life be really happy or fulfilled knowing that you are alive simply because I'm dead? If me laying my life down for you shows you that i love you, what does you not laying your life down show me? Does it mean that i think you are a better human being than me so that's why you gave your life for mine? Why does it mean i don't really love you if i wouldn't give my life or even jeopardize my life for you? If those were the cards you were dealt in life, why is it my burden to change the path your life has taken? Does me giving my life for you guarantee anything in the name of our love or that you will even remember or honor me in my passing? What does laying my life down do for our relationship? Does it make you stop living your life to the fullest because you know i gave mines up for you, or does it make you continue living and loving with others, and if that is the case why would i not want that for myself?? I want to live and love, why do i have to give up my life so you can live and love to show that i actually loved?? I feel that is absolutely absurd!! I feel like you should always love yourself, and appreciate that love that surrounds you if you are lucky enough to be surrounded by it, but i caution you on believing that ultimate sacrifices are the true test of love. I do believe that sacrifices must be made to show good faith and to build any loving relationship, but there is a line that needs to be drawn when you are saying one life is more important that another. If it was and is your time, its fate that has already been chosen for you. I'm not here to say don't try to save someone or don't lend a helping hand, but also don't mistake sacrifice with love and don't think that love might kill you, because if it does, who really wants love??