IS THIS NOT WHAT YOU WANT!!!!!

Ive become so deaf to the noise of complaining people that i thought i really didnt pay them any attention. Well that was until a recent epiphany i had either feeling sorry for myself being sick or on the shitter, i cant recall which one.

Anyway, this quote may come off as a total "twitter cliche" or a Class A felony for the "Cliche Police" but as are most cliches they have real meaning if you pay attention and apply it accordingly. That being said, i ask this ......... "Do you rather the comfort of convenience or the challenge of Happiness."

People fight for comfortability so hard that they start to lose sight of what they really want. Our lives are littered with these decisions daily and its something we take for granted because most of us, present company included, mistake convenience for happiness.

The real tough question is do you really know what makes you happy, or are you just living a life of assumptions. People tend to not know what really makes them happy, just what we think should, or what society says would make us happy. Therein lies the problem, if you dont know what makes you happy you can not even begin to answer the question of "Comfort of Convenience or Challenge of Happiness."

Example:
What you think will make you Happy:
Own my own home w/ backyard for the kids

Where you are currently comfortable:
Renting an apt downtown BK enjoying no kids

You are comfortable downtown BK, its convenient for work, you dont have to shovel snow, and you get your apt fixed by someone else when things need to be fixed ...... ohh yea, and NO KIDS.

BUT ... something inside of you feels like you are missing something. what are you missing?? are you not being successful, are you not fulfilling or striving for you dreams.

What is it that you really want?

EVERY ROSE HAS ITS THORNS

I cant really understand why some people are soo unrealistic in life ....

I can respect that man/woman that believes they are special and deserves everything to come to them that they have worked for .... TRUST ME I GET IT...

I also dont believe a person should have to settle or belittle themselves to be happy, however "Every Rose has Its Thorn." And being realistic about life isnt settling to me.

You have a Bachelors, A Master, and a Doctorate and you're hella successful in life, that is your Rose... that is what you wanted. However, your thorn is you prob dont have that immaculate love life you thought that you would have had to make you 'complete" ... The people you date dont seem to understand you b/c your will and drive way surpasses what they do and cant fathom how you do it. Thats Your thorn.


You are a beautiful woman, great body, and actually a nice personality with somewhat of an education, but everyone loves you .. every one wants you .. you are being chased by Athletes, Actors, Millionaires that just want you as a trophy as a boo, maybe even a wifey; Thats your Rose. Unfortunately, you dont feel independent, you are not doing what you wanted to be doing with your life, you feel a bit dependent, but you are soo far in right now you can't even imagine starting over so you feel stuck in this stereotype of beautiful woman waiting for her "Prince Charming" to make youre problems go away and set up your future; Thats your thorn!


You are in a relationship with someone that you feel loves you ... he/she treats you well, does for you, tries to grow with you, you learn from each other, you make each other smile, and the only times tears come out is not b/c he puts his hands on you or she burns you (lol - had to find a reason for a man to shed a tear) --- its simply during heated arguments that everyone has; Thats your rose. Unfortunately deep inside that he is not 100% faithful or he knew her while she someone he knows' wifey or even worst side piece. Thats your thorn!! That is a thorn that could eat at any woman or any man!!

These are all things that many people would say they would not do, or would not settle for ... but the problem is people often over specialize themselves. Meaning, people always think they are more special than they really are. When reality hits, its a mother fucka, you make choices every day in your life and you just have to live with the consequences. If you want to stay in school for 12 yrs and study 6 nights a week so you can be a successful business person or lawyer or doctor, thats great!!! But dont ask why is my love life not where i want it to be. Its obvious, you love your success more than your love life .. LETS JUST KEEP IT FUNKY!!!

Know when to say say when ....

As I speak to my friends, associates, and people who can keep my interest for more than 30 seconds; I have come to realize that the biggest problem we all have is not knowing when to say when. When to say no to that family member, when to say no to that bum ass friend, when to say yes to that gf/bf, when to say yes to a good opportunity, when to just make the right decisions.

Well, I'm not a NYE resolution type dude but its when to say when for me in a few places in my life. You do what you can for as long as you can until you just can't do it anymore. So like my dude Obama would say .... "Its Time for Change"

I think this calls for a few new pair of shoes and a nice scarf. Maybe even go to Ron & Ron and splurge on some customs! I have to be and live the character If I want to shine in my book!!