DEFINE A DATE???

WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN A DATE AND GOING OR WENT OUT???

This was a question that i posed to my twitches (@MrVegasNYC) my Facebitches (Senor Vegas) and my BBM (not giving you my pin)

There were different responses to the question. Some say there is no difference b/t Dating and Going out, some say there is a slight difference, and others say there is a significant difference.

This Blog is to ask you what is your definition of a date and what is your definition of gone out. I will share my definition with you. Be clear, i have not blogged in a while, but my words are still as crass and as blunt as ever, so read with an open or closed mind. IDGAF ... just know i speak the Truth, as i see it.

MY DISTINCTION: 'Going out' is a formality women take to not fuck you for free ... I dnt consider that 'dating' - Dating is something you do to build something with someone you like for more than fuckin. Women Go Out w/ niggas they have no intention of fucking, niggas dont go out w/ chicks they dont want to fuck. However, both sexes date people to get to know them with hopes they will like them and it will lead to something else, not necessarily or specifically SEX.

That is MY take .. What is Yours?

SEX IS RELATIONS - NOT RELATIONSHIPS

As most of you know from my previous blogs and my twitter, I'm pretty straight forward, and I like to ask questions that make people think. So today my question is: Why are you women acting like you don't know men want to fuck first, and get to know you second?

We're all grown here correct?? Good, because I'm looking for grown folk conversations.

I don't mind being cool with you, but I don't want to jeopardize my willingness to have sex with you just by talking to you too much. Sex is relations, not a relationship. "Just because we had sex doesn't make us friends" -@HarryPowda. Honestly, if I decide I don't want to fuck anymore, chances are, we wont be that cool any damn way. It's not a matter of fucking everybody, it's a matter of knowing and acknowledging why we're here.

Women know men really just want to to fuck, STOP IT!! Yes, you do! If you want to accept it or not that is your business, but you damn well know that is the situation. Any relationship can get past fucking and into something else, but it starts with fucking. Why are you all so uptight about that?? If I dont want to fuck you, how the hell can you expect me to want to hang out with you and even be with you long term? WTDT@??

OHHHHHHH SHIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIT!!!!!!

Ever fuck someone you know you shouldn't?

(You get that naughty rush!!! That voyeuristic feeling
ohhhhh man, i shouldn't be doing this!!, but this shyt
is definitely about to go down)


Then fuck someone you said you wouldn't?

(This is the person you always felt could never get
it from you, because of whatever reason, but ONE
DAY ... the Moon was right and the situation couldn't
be denied, not so much of a rush, but a HEEEEEEEEERE WE GO!!)



Then fuck someone you thought you couldn't?

(This is the ultimate SUPERMAN / SUPERWOMAN RUSH .... I know im sexy, but
i never thought this person wanted to fuck me. I
thought we were just friends, I thought you were
celibate, I thought you didn't fuck short dark skin
ppl - Its a RUSH b/c i just didn't think we
were fucking tonight ... POW!!!!!!)



What was your weekend like???

AINT NO PUSSY LIKE NEW PUSSY .....

BUT .....
The Best Sex is LOVE SEX (Allegedly)


Maybe I'm a dysfunctional person, maybe I have no respect for the other sex, maybe I don't respect myself, or maybe, just maybe I'm a self aware human being that understands that the concept of life long monogamy is not a natural choice, its a trained decision.

I don't advocate cheating, I don't advocate lies, and I'm not here to argue the stupid shyt that happens in relationships. However, I am here to speak for those people who think there is more to life than a singular, repetitive and mundane relationship. I'm here to speak for people who accept the fact that you can care for someone emotionally and mentally, but still want someone else physically. I believe that urge for someone or something else is more natural than the concept of monogamy. They say humans are not "animals" so we should not try to act like them. OK, but I have heard humans are the only mammals that have sex for pleasure; and if this is for pleasure, why should I not be pleased because someone else finds my behavior appalling? FOH!!

If you have come to the place in your life that you feel you can be with and will only want one person ever again, CONGRATS!!! I envy you for your beliefs and your idealism but most of you are naive, and i don't envy that. Between the ages of 15-35 if you feel like you have found the only person you're ever going to want to be with again I think that idea is delusional, really optimistic or really lucky, and if you're that lucky you should be playing lotto whenever you want and WIN. I'm currently about to be 30 and out of the hundreds of relationships that I have seen start since I was 15, I couldn't tell you ONE that I know has succeeded. So, WHY am I the ASSHOLE? Why are you guys not delusional? I'm tired of hearing "My Grand Parents are still together" Congrats to your Grand Parents, this is a different time and a different era, give me someone else other than Grandparents and MAYBE Parents.

Life offers something different to you every five years; for you to think you're relationship won't change (maybe for the better) and or deteriorate I am ASTONISHED!! What is it about you or your partner that is sooo fucking special that you think you're the exception to the obvious norm? I mean being optimistic is totally different from being delusional. I'm all for Optimism, but i cant really get with delusion? I'm attracted to totally different people at 30 than i was at 25. I was attracted to different people at 25 than i was at 20. What makes you think your taste won't change in your 5 years and your partner won't change as well. Wanting someone else is a natural human feeling and emotion. However, I think that the overwhelmingly stronger emotion is that of losing someone. People are scared to be honest, people are scared to lose someone they like. This fear is often the downfall of many relationships because they will lie, cheat and deceive to hold one to what they want. If people could just realize that often the mental and emotional part of a relationship can easily grow stronger over time, but physical part of the relationship usually deteriorates over time. Once again, a mental and emotional relationship is very different from a physical one, STOP trying to make them mutually inclusive, they are very mutually exclusive.

So i said all that to say this .... AIN'T NO PUSSY LIKE NEW PUSSY ....
But I understand how knowing someones pussy can make the experience a bit more emotionally gratifying, but that doesn't always its more EXCITING!!!
But I'm young enough to have my cake and eat it too, Ill work it off!!

YOUR SECRETS ARE SAFE WITH ME .....

What constitutes a 'BEST FRIEND'?

I hear those words used quite often! Best Friend!
What does that really mean to people?

I know I am guilty of the excessive use of the words myself, and just like everyone else I have a reason for why I use it so often. Personally, I'm someone who does not get too close to people, I'm a very public person w/ a very private life so if i feel comfortable confiding in you, I consider you a best friend.

What do you think a best friend is supposed to be? Is it someone you feel comfortable speaking with? Is it someone that knows you the longest? Is it someone that knows your deepest secrets? Is it someone who you feel would never let you down or do anything against you that you don't like?

Maybe I'm a skeptic because I believe that different friends offer different things to your life and your relationship. I don't agree or think it is possible for one friend to encompass all that a "Best Friend" should by definition offer to the relationship.

I think a singular best friend is childish because as a child your needs are childish. As people grow up they grow out and become more complex, people who have known you the longest may not understand the person you are now. However, ppl you relate to now, you probably can not trust like those who have known you the longest.

Do you think people can really have multiple 'BEST FRIENDS' , or is that just a title people use like 'Shorty' ? Because Honestly, you can have many shorties, but you can only have one Boyfriend / Girlfriend.

EVERY ROSE HAS ITS THORNS

I cant really understand why some people are soo unrealistic in life ....

I can respect that man/woman that believes they are special and deserves everything to come to them that they have worked for .... TRUST ME I GET IT...

I also dont believe a person should have to settle or belittle themselves to be happy, however "Every Rose has Its Thorn." And being realistic about life isnt settling to me.

You have a Bachelors, A Master, and a Doctorate and you're hella successful in life, that is your Rose... that is what you wanted. However, your thorn is you prob dont have that immaculate love life you thought that you would have had to make you 'complete" ... The people you date dont seem to understand you b/c your will and drive way surpasses what they do and cant fathom how you do it. Thats Your thorn.


You are a beautiful woman, great body, and actually a nice personality with somewhat of an education, but everyone loves you .. every one wants you .. you are being chased by Athletes, Actors, Millionaires that just want you as a trophy as a boo, maybe even a wifey; Thats your Rose. Unfortunately, you dont feel independent, you are not doing what you wanted to be doing with your life, you feel a bit dependent, but you are soo far in right now you can't even imagine starting over so you feel stuck in this stereotype of beautiful woman waiting for her "Prince Charming" to make youre problems go away and set up your future; Thats your thorn!


You are in a relationship with someone that you feel loves you ... he/she treats you well, does for you, tries to grow with you, you learn from each other, you make each other smile, and the only times tears come out is not b/c he puts his hands on you or she burns you (lol - had to find a reason for a man to shed a tear) --- its simply during heated arguments that everyone has; Thats your rose. Unfortunately deep inside that he is not 100% faithful or he knew her while she someone he knows' wifey or even worst side piece. Thats your thorn!! That is a thorn that could eat at any woman or any man!!

These are all things that many people would say they would not do, or would not settle for ... but the problem is people often over specialize themselves. Meaning, people always think they are more special than they really are. When reality hits, its a mother fucka, you make choices every day in your life and you just have to live with the consequences. If you want to stay in school for 12 yrs and study 6 nights a week so you can be a successful business person or lawyer or doctor, thats great!!! But dont ask why is my love life not where i want it to be. Its obvious, you love your success more than your love life .. LETS JUST KEEP IT FUNKY!!!

WHAT DO YOU DO??

Next Lifetime - Erykah Badu

She Said:

What am i supposed to do when i want you in my world? How can i want you for myself, when im already someone's Girl! I guess ill see you next lifetime ....... I know im a lot of woman but not enough to divide the pie!


So did anyone believe this when they heard it?? I know i sure didnt! You dont want someone for yourself, and talk about seeing the person in the next life b/c you know yall were meant to be together!! Bounce boulders bitch, if you going through all this Dilemma, aint no way that pie aint been "divided" already! WE DONT BELIEVE YOU ..... YOU NEED MORE PEOPLE!!!!

98% GOOD NIGGA!

This is a conversation that has been going on b/t girlfriends and men and women in relationships for CENTURIES. The chances of you finding the perfect person is impossible, because everyone is different and likes different things. The best thing i tell people to hope for is to find the person who is Perfect for you, or the person that comes the closest.

There is noooo such thing as the perfect dude, everyone has faults everyone has weaknesses, and everyone messes up. My question is, why do are women so willing to give up that "98%" good nigga to turn around and end up with a "62%" good nigga. I never really understood what certain people hold in such high regard.

What are the 3 basic faults women know about dudes?
1. They like to fuck other women. (what a shocker)
2. They like to be the "big man", "bread winner", "wear the pants"
3. They carry emotional baggage from old relationships (baby momma drama, heartbroken as a kid, etc. etc.
4. They LIE like like the motherfuckin rug.

My problem is, we are all grown yet we like to sit back and believe in fairy tales like we are kids. Im not saying you should not want the best for yourself, now am i saying you should compromise yourself, im saying you should not throw something or someone away because they messed up, just to bite ya nose off to spite your face. Then end up with something worst and then you never get that good thing back again.

If he does all the things your man should do for you like, not Chris Brown your ass, Diddy's The kids (takes care of his and yours like its his), does not put you in harms way, and provides a safe enviorment for you and your kids, is pretty damn honest with you, but requires you to kinda humble yourself a bit and just be his lady, why is it that some of you want to fight him on this. Why is it that you are so hell bent on "equality" and having your voice heard, but end up fucking with a dude who gives you that voice, but you have no equality in the rest of your relationship. You were not screaming equality when you was taking care of your kids. Whats so hard about STFU!

Simularly, this dude is almost perfect in every way, but he cheats on you. I know .. I know .. I know .. OHHH MY GOSH!! He cheated. Really? So now what?? Break up with him and find someone who won't cheat on you? Well you will be searching for that person for a really long time, or that dude's head is so far up under your skirt, he can tell you when your "periodical" is coming. If you are just going to stay with someone who doesnt cheat on you, you will be in a bunch of 6month - 36 month relationships, or after a while, you will just stop looking or caring. Should have stopped looking while you had the good nigga. Now you stuck with the fat nigga who borrows money from you all the time and doesnt have much going on but a bunch of talk and empty promises.

Now, im not saying that there are not guys out there that dont cheat, and im not saying that there are not guys out there that will let you be the woman you want to be. My point is know what it is that you want from your relationships, and allow their to be room for error and improvement. Its always GREAT in the beginning, but can it be GOOD 20 yrs from now is the real question. Relationships go from GREAT to I HATE YOU, in 2-6 months. Talk to me after 15 - 25 yrs.

ALL IM SAYING IS ...
Dont throw away a Zack Posen dress b/c someone had it on before you, or there is a default in it, take it to a tailor to get it fixed. It doesnt make sense to throw that away just to go throw on a Isaac Mizrahi Target dress. Thats just backwards to me. A Good Dress is a good dress, and that will prob last longer than that short term Target shyt!

Fix the Posen dress and deal with the fact that its a hot dress and someone else would and prob has had it before. Geeesh!!!