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Tuesday, December 16, 2008

LESBIANS DO IT BETTER?? REALLY??



*** IM NOT HERE TO JUDGE ANYONE'S SEXUAL PREFERENCE, OR THROW STONES, IM JUST QUESTIONING SOME OF THE THINGS I HAVE HEARD FROM SOME WOMEN ***

Ok Ok Ok ...
This blog was not an original idea, but it was an original thought. So i have to credit to BCU'S BLOG, but mine is a little different (Lesbians definitely dont hit on me, lol)

I dont know how many people can answer this for me, and i dont know how many replies i will even get from this hopefully yall will keep if funky or at the worst respond anonymously!

So my question is, WHATS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN FUCKIN WITH A MAN AND FUCKIN WITH A WOMAN (LET'S SAY an AG to be specific)

So if you dont know what AG stands for, you cant answer this question anyway. Now, im not opposed to Lebsians or Bi Sexuals, I just sometimes wonder what the big difference is between AG's and Dudes. They look like dudes, they dress like dudes, they act like dudes, they even fuck like dudes (from what my girls tell me), so really what is the big difference?

They Give you strap -- Niggas give you dick
They are hella possessive -- Niggas can be possesive
They look like niggas -- Niggas look like niggas
They cheat like niggas -- niggas cheat like niggas
They say they know your needs -- a nigga can learn what you need
They eat good pussy -- niggas eat good pussy

I REALLY DONT GET IT! Someone Pls Explain (if you can)

29 Retort(s):

brook lynne carter. said...

its relative. women dont always do it better, men dont always do it better. just depends on what kind of lover your with. women generally are not scared of pussy, which means that they eat it like puppy chow. i know a FEW men that i can say the same.(just a few) but i dont think women always do it better, its an assumption, and honestly,your going to always cheer for the team your playing for, right?

i have played for both teams, so im speaking intelligently on the subject. :o]

**trucee writer** said...

ahhh, something i can have some actual insight on.
havent been with tooo many females but ummm, the ones i have, it just seemed like they were more in tune with the female body bc well, they have one. like Brook, i'm not gonna say that a male or female necessarily does anything "better" because

i do know guys who took time out to get to know the female body (even specific to each female they've been with and can do what the fuck they have to in order to please) i even said in my own blog that i couldnt do without a male actually being connected to the penis bc to me, its what a male feels, that sensitivity that makes them perfect the art of what they do.

i do feel as though females are more sensitive to the needs of other females bc most have dealt with niggas before their "switch", for lack of a better term, and know exactly what they want and dont want.

shit, whats wrong with a male AND female in the same space as me? O:-)
im just saying.

Peggy M. said...

You're right - anything a dude has an AG has [kinda] or wants to have...

Except two things: Estrogen and a damn menstrual cycle. Smh.

I agree with the above... it's not that all AGs do it better, some men might be better, it depends on your partner ... shoot in my opinion, Femmes probably do it better... ha.

But back to the topic at hand. There isn't a big difference. A female knows what a female wants. Simple as that. Sometimes, you have to tell/teach a man what you want or how to eat it. Rarely, do you have to tell a lesbian how to eat. She knows what would make her feel good so she takes those thoughts and brings it to reality on her lady.

Also, some women just prefer the sensuality and the gentleness of a female's touch.

the HAITIANS said...

UMMMMMM......WE WITH U VEG BUT I GUESS ITS A MATTER OF PREFERENCE. TO COMMENT ON WHAT PEGGY SAID, "SENSUALITY AND GENTELNESS OF A FEMALES TOUCH"....A GUY CAN'T DO THAT??? IF A DUDE GRAZED YOUR NIPPLE SOFTLY AND A GIRL DOES THE SAME THING, DOES THAT FEELS BETTER CUZ SHE A GIRL????

I GUESS AT THE END OF THE DAY...WE JUST DONT GET IT.....CUZ A DUDE COULD HAVE SOFT SKIN, TOUCH U SOFTLY, KISS U THE WAY U WANT HIM TOO, EAT U LIKE U ICE CREAM, AND MAKE U HAVE MULTIPLE ORGASMS BUT AGAIN TO EACH THEIR OWN

Anonymous said...

This is the topic of late that I have been reading on several blogs. I am a woman who loves men, but I have been with women. I have been with an AG and loved an AG, but prefer a femme. What attracted me sexually to a woman was the femininity and how she was not like a man. The sex was great the best I ever had with a person, but I don't think it was just because she was a woman, think it was just her. I fell in love with an AG, but sexually it was frustrating...I did not want a man sexually and did not want a woman who acted like a man sexually. I like penetration by a woman in combination with her soft skin, her breasts, and a whole lot of other things. I agree with trucee that females know what they like and know how to please you and some men do not take the time to learn...I can go on and on for days. I posted anonymous because only a couple of people know that I have been with women and because of job and family need to keep it that way, will love to read the follow up responses. Will be checking back in.

Beautifully.Conjured.Up said...

One of my friends is dating an AG, and she says she love is...won't date anything else, yet she couldn't explain why...it just felt natural for her.

Humbly Beautiful said...

Came across this topic this morning as I was catching up on my blogs. Interesting blog and comments. I read the blog you referenced and found it interesting too. One of my friends is an AG and she always says she knows she is a woman and does not want to be a man but all her actions to me...are manly, I have stopped trying to understand.

Vegas International said...

Brook ...
"its relative. women dont always do it better, men dont always do it better"

Thats what i have been saying. I understand cheering on the team you are with, but the comments (from some ladies) that a dude cant and a woman can just does not sit well with me. I would say the key is attentiveness. Im sure their are some ladies out there that are not very attentive when it comes to a woman in bed. When i hear, I love how a woman looks, how she feels, how she acts, and then i turn around and look at your chick and she looks AND acts like the local block hustler. I DONT GET IT.

Vegas International said...

Trucee ...

So you are saying that their is really no difference except that fact that women are more attentive. So if a dude was attentive he could do just as good a job as a female?

Vegas International said...

Peggy ...

"Also, some women just prefer the sensuality and the gentleness of a female's touch"

Thats my point, those statements dont make sense to me (when dealing with an AG). They sure dont seem gentle, sure dont seem very sensual. Those are the statments i dont get. When dealing with a Femme i can fathom that, but a AG, cmon homie!! I need something better than that.

Vegas International said...

Haitians ...

B I N G O !!!!

Thats my point.

Vegas International said...

Anonymous ...

You see, that i understand. I can see why a woman would love to be with a femme sexually, i can see it. I can almost understand it, its the same reason i want to be with them. I can see and understand that they might be a bit more sexier, and softer and all that, but i dont see it with an AG.

Vegas International said...

BCU.

I dont get it, why wouldnt she just date a dude? What is the difference btw an AG and a Dude? What is the difference?????? lol

Vegas International said...

Humbyly...

Thats what I need to understand. They say i love being a woman and wouldnt want to be a man, but nothing they do is femanine. I dont get it either.

Anonymous said...

Anonymous again...that is where me and the AG fell off. We contacted on an emotional level and when I look back at it when I saw her I saw a dude. Everything about our relationship she played the male role. What was funny she was fine looking dude, but when I pictured her as more feminine she would be a sexxy as femm(except for her toned body). I do think some women, not all, who mostly date AGs have been hurt by men and use them as a substitute, some deny it, but when you look at their past it is obvious.

There were awkward moments when it seemed like the AG I dated went in "male" mode and I was like that is not what I want. The masculinity of her is not what attracted me to her. Sexually I love a femm that takes control because I am more of the submissive femm, but she can take control without acting like a man. Do I love a strap on yes, does it feel like the real thing, no...but it is only one way to please and not the whole way. I think I have gotten to the point of each is own. I mean I am not walking in your shoes and it might be just as easy to for you to judge me for my sexual choices as I am doing towards you...you understand?

I do find it interesting that society finds it so sexxy when two femm women are together, but when they see two masculine dudes it is disgusting...not saying I feel it, but I do think there is a double standard.

Peggy M. said...

Umm, I feel you ... I don't really get it neither, that's just some of the things I've also heard from my femme friends who date serious AGs/Butches.

I know some chicks who can't fathom the thought of being near someone who has a [real] dick! Some chicks who let strap-on's take their virginities! It's weird! I went to HS with a whole bunch of them. So although their bitches look like dudes ... they're not dudes... they have pussies.

Peggy M. said...

Anonymous...that's like some of the die hard lesbians I'm talking about that can't stand to be with a man ... they've definitely been hurt before and don't want to revisit that again, so instead they resort to a female who plays the role of a man. It gives them a sense of having someone who is dominant or someone who "wears the pants" in the relationship, while they remain submissive.

Humbly Beautiful said...

Anonymous and Peggy:

I think you both hit it when it comes to women being attracted to AGs. They have been hurt by men and want the emotional feeling of a woman to feel that void and a stud gives them that with the physical appearance of a man. I think there are always exceptions to the rule. Like I said earlier I have stopped trying to understand. I think anyone can make an argument to justify their actions or feelings. I am loving the T.I. cut "Live Your Life" people will always judge and have opinions.

Pana said...

I just don't get it, period !!! I mean what's the point yeah girls understand girls. I need a strong man holding me...They way it was intended. How can I have children? No offense I have gay friends but I just can't see one thing that's different. VI I feel you on this one.

Beautifully.Conjured.Up said...

Honey, if I knew I would tell you, but she can't even explain it, and I definetly don't get it. I could understand if she liked fems, but she can't stand them...she said they act like bitches yet AGs don't. I say whatever to that...long as you have a period every month, the bitch is bound to come out...whether you wear a strap or not.

Lexi Chow PR & Company said...

Men women same shit! Women are hella possesive yet nuturing... women cheat and give the same headache as men do but worse! When a man complains about a woman's nagging tendencies or bitchyness...hellooo a woman does it better u aint never lie in that sense! I dont know if I could deal with another me!

Anonymous said...

Anonymous again... I think most people do not get it. I use to say being with a person of the same sex did not make sense. I am like you stick a plug into a socket, not socket in socket or plug in plug. Did not get with a woman, honestly just happened. We became friends hung out and talked about everything and one day we just took it to the next level. When I was with the AG it was right after a bad relationship and I see that now.

The AG attraction is hard to describe. I do thik people are attracted to different qualities in people and some might like the twist on masculinity that AGs offer. I personally do not in most cases. I love the person for who they are on the inside. As far as sexually that is a component of the relationship and the physical plays a part. I think too many generalizations are made about each sex. All women are not good and all men are not bad.

Peggy:

I have friends who will not go near a real one, but love a strap on which I do not understand. I have some friends who are femmes who do not like penetration at all. I think it all guys back to a person's preferences. We all are different and we all like different things.

Vegas International said...

Ok, oK, Ok...

This is what I was asking for! I think some honest things are being said now and I can dig that. I do wish I had some AG followers or some AG loving femmes to give their opinion, but honestly I think 8/10 women have or will or want to mess with another woman, and I was really searching for those AG loving an anti men mentality ladies, but maybe they might not have been so forthcoming

So I really do believe that a majority of women that go that AG route have had some "Experience" with men and in turn they turn to that woman for comfort and change! But my question to that is what do you do when the woman hurts you?? Because be clear women do the same shyt men do,Do you go back to men, or stay with women? If you stay with women, why are they worth staying with, but you can give up on men all together,Or be so quick to throw them under the bus! I might hear I don't mess with girls anymore because I love my man, but I never hear, I can't stand those bitches, a woman can't do for me what my man ever did, but you sure do hear that talk about men!

Maybe that's my real question since we are being honest here. Personality wise and physically there is not much difference btw an AG or a man, and (yes she has a pussy! But from what I hear you don't get to see it much less eat it so let's not count that). So why do women feel like they can take shyt from a woman, but not from a man? Does the woman get a pass bc she is a woman and yall blaming "The Man"?? Because if you want to be honest, most dudes are the way they are because of a woman!

Riddle Me That!!

Anonymous said...

I am loving the convo here because I can't have with too many people.

As for those women who have been hurt and given up on men I don't think are true lesbians or bi they just want someone to take away the hurt...which trust being in a lesbian relationship will not. I consider myself bi with a leaning toward men and honestly I think that is because of society...can't never bring a woman home to my mother...that will be a heart attack waiting to happen.

I don't have any anti men friends. I do have lesbian friends who have not had a man in their lives, have been hurt by men but they don't hate them they just don't trust them, and ones who just like women. I think you can't group them in a category. What is funny none of them know I like women...waiting for the day that I have the guts.

You do pose a good question and argument. When a woman hurts you, which they will, I have put it up to the woman not the gender, and I do the same for guys, not all women do this. Women will hurt you and most of the time worse than men. I do think your question brings up what sometimes causes drama in lesbians. You leave men because you are hurt, but you won't do the same for women...to me it does not make sense. I think women who take shyt from women have a whole nother issue in itself.

Oh...not all AGs won't let you eat them out. My girl did, but it took a while for her to get to that point and it was only on special occasions.

MPrss said...

Vegas- Maybe the answers don't add up from some people because they really haven't thought about the "why." They just doing what makes them feel good. When they try to justify it they come up with questionable answers... If folks just say "I just like (her)- I don't know" Would that be less puzzling????
Hmmmm.... thoughts?

Vegas International said...

Anonynous ...

The whole special occasion thing is craazy to me. Thats even worst than a man. Atleast a man will allow some form of natural reciprocation. YOu dont hear a man say you can only give me head for your bday! I dnt know, it still baffles me.

I dont think that a woman who stays with a woman after abuse is much different from a woman who stays with a man. Its just a fhuked up situation, im still workin on why a woman concept.

Anonymous said...

It is crazy, but I somewhat understand. She does not get sexual pleasure out of it and I do. Like I said earlier it was sexually frustrating at times because I did not want a man. Everything that I like done to me, I like to do to her.

I don't think one can ever understand why a woman stays with a person, male or female, when they are being abused. It is easy to see all the things wrong from the outside, but most times they don't see them when they are in the situation. Then don't think I have said this yet, but you do just have some women who are just freaks and nothing necessarily wrong with that, but they just want a woman.

Confused Luv said...

This was was written a while ago, but just saw the post. It is a long comment, sorry, hope you read and comment.

Loved the post and comments. I think it is hard subject to understand. To me it is trying to understand why you have an attraction to someone. I can explain the concrete things that attract me to them, but some things are just an emotion or chemistry that I just feel.

In the blog of mine you read VI I talk about how I was initially just attracted to femme women, not studs or aggressives. I think love is love no matter who you love. I have dated men because that is what society tells you to do, but I have never felt about a man like I do a woman.

I think the Haitians said a man can touch and do all the things sexually that a woman can do which is true, but I can never do all the things sexually to a man that he can do to me. And to me a man never feels like a woman. I have known of my attraction to women even before I was sexually active so sex is only a part of it to me.

I am assuming that we are all adults here and apologize if I am blunt. To me the sex with a woman is amazing. I have had bad and good sex with women, but it always better than being with a man. I have had penetration with a strap-on from a woman and it is nice but not a must. I am breast woman and love to hold, taste, and feel them...things I can not do with a man (unless it is a fat man and that is SOOOOO not cute and not even an option). What I do with a woman sexually is what I personally like and other men or women may not like, but that is on them, who am I to judge? Life is way to short.

I do think a lot of women date studs because they have been hurt by men and they see them as a replacement, to me that is just a person having a relationship out of their own issues which is never good. A woman will never be a man no matter how hard she tries. Women hurt you just like men and it can feel worse.

I think I will stop, sorry for the long response, I could go on and on. Hope I get a response.

Vegas International said...

C Luv...

You see, that makes sense to me. I have no arguments or problems with that concept. I'm well aware that women are different from men, and I think that should be the reason you are attracted to them and like being with them. My concern or argument and question was to those women who deal with women that are totally males with a vagina. If you can't stand men and don't want to be with a dude but only mess with butch looking and fucking women. That was where my confusion lays.