This is a conversation that has been going on b/t girlfriends and men and women in relationships for CENTURIES. The chances of you finding the perfect person is impossible, because everyone is different and likes different things. The best thing i tell people to hope for is to find the person who is Perfect for you, or the person that comes the closest.
There is noooo such thing as the perfect dude, everyone has faults everyone has weaknesses, and everyone messes up. My question is, why do are women so willing to give up that "98%" good nigga to turn around and end up with a "62%" good nigga. I never really understood what certain people hold in such high regard.
What are the 3 basic faults women know about dudes?
1. They like to fuck other women. (what a shocker)
2. They like to be the "big man", "bread winner", "wear the pants"
3. They carry emotional baggage from old relationships (baby momma drama, heartbroken as a kid, etc. etc.
4. They LIE like like the motherfuckin rug.
My problem is, we are all grown yet we like to sit back and believe in fairy tales like we are kids. Im not saying you should not want the best for yourself, now am i saying you should compromise yourself, im saying you should not throw something or someone away because they messed up, just to bite ya nose off to spite your face. Then end up with something worst and then you never get that good thing back again.
If he does all the things your man should do for you like, not Chris Brown your ass, Diddy's The kids (takes care of his and yours like its his), does not put you in harms way, and provides a safe enviorment for you and your kids, is pretty damn honest with you, but requires you to kinda humble yourself a bit and just be his lady, why is it that some of you want to fight him on this. Why is it that you are so hell bent on "equality" and having your voice heard, but end up fucking with a dude who gives you that voice, but you have no equality in the rest of your relationship. You were not screaming equality when you was taking care of your kids. Whats so hard about STFU!
Simularly, this dude is almost perfect in every way, but he cheats on you. I know .. I know .. I know .. OHHH MY GOSH!! He cheated. Really? So now what?? Break up with him and find someone who won't cheat on you? Well you will be searching for that person for a really long time, or that dude's head is so far up under your skirt, he can tell you when your "periodical" is coming. If you are just going to stay with someone who doesnt cheat on you, you will be in a bunch of 6month - 36 month relationships, or after a while, you will just stop looking or caring. Should have stopped looking while you had the good nigga. Now you stuck with the fat nigga who borrows money from you all the time and doesnt have much going on but a bunch of talk and empty promises.
Now, im not saying that there are not guys out there that dont cheat, and im not saying that there are not guys out there that will let you be the woman you want to be. My point is know what it is that you want from your relationships, and allow their to be room for error and improvement. Its always GREAT in the beginning, but can it be GOOD 20 yrs from now is the real question. Relationships go from GREAT to I HATE YOU, in 2-6 months. Talk to me after 15 - 25 yrs.
ALL IM SAYING IS ...
Dont throw away a Zack Posen dress b/c someone had it on before you, or there is a default in it, take it to a tailor to get it fixed. It doesnt make sense to throw that away just to go throw on a Isaac Mizrahi Target dress. Thats just backwards to me. A Good Dress is a good dress, and that will prob last longer than that short term Target shyt!
Fix the Posen dress and deal with the fact that its a hot dress and someone else would and prob has had it before. Geeesh!!!
